THERE ARE NO QUEER TEEN SUICIDES - Unknown artist - 2004 - Portland, OR - Single page flyer.
I have a print out of this hanging in my office.
As someone who has had gay roommates and many gay friends I find this rather insulting. I have played shows with bands to benefit shelters where gay runaway teens would stay alongside battered wives and other abused people including children. Because I don’t “crossdress” I am somehow to blame anytime a gay person commits suicide? And what sexual curiosities? News flash: There are people who simply are NOT attracted to the same gender. Just as a transgender person knows in their heart whether or not they are a woman, man, or undefined so am I sure that I am strictly attracted to women and like to wear what society considers “man” clothes. I did not invent genders nor did I choose which gender I would identify with as a person. I like jeans and t-shirts. I like ties and boots. I had a kilt but an ex took it when she moved. I wore eyeliner when I was a little 12 year old punk. I painted my nails black. I like my facial hair and I am extremely happy to have the penis Mother Nature blessed me with. I don’t do what society tells me is right or wrong. I go by what I feel and believe. I have never had an impulse to fuck a man. As I have written before, a friend of mine, a gay guy, my roommate, once asked if he could kiss me because he thought I had “sexy latin lips”. So I let him and it was very weird. He complimented my kissing and I was 100% sure that I did not find men sexually appealing at all. Just because I don’t fuck men does not mean I am fighting an urge to do so. And just because I am straight it does not make me culpable for the deaths of gay people when I, in my life, have done all I can for gay people to be accepted including getting suspended for beating up bullies who fucked with gay kids at school. Whether I knew them or not. That’s like me saying all white people are guilty every time a non white person dies as a result of the guns your people invented or the diseases your people brought from Europe. Pretty fucking idiotic point of view isn’t it? You can’t paint a picture with one brush stroke. There are always details you must fill in.
The one good thing about this post is that it gave me an idea for a song…Guilty Of Being Straight.
STONEDPERVERT I LOVE YOU SO MUCH MY GOD my fiance is the fucking shit.
But no seriously, what THE FUCK IS UP WITH THIS SHIT RIGHT HERE. Because a straight person doesn’t challenge their straight desires and doesn’t cross dress, that makes them responsible for the suicide of gay teens? And no, they ARE suicides, they are NOT murders, and let me tell you why, even though it should be common fucking sense.
Being a pansexual, or bisexual woman, for those who refuse to accept that term, who grew up in the town Jerry Falwell reigned over in the bible belt of the south in super absurdly conservative Virginia, I know first hand the pain that gay individuals go through. I have gone through it as thousands of others have gone through it. I was bullied, I was mocked, I escaped being jumped, more than two or three times, by groups of girls and boys exceeding the numbers of 7, and I have been followed, verbally abused by students, peers, adults and teachers alike, I’ve had things thrown at me, I’ve had lit firecrackers thrown at my face. These occurrences, these are the battles that gay people face, all of them, each and every one, every single day. So I know, personally, the pain of not being accepted for the way you were born. I came from a broken home, in the lower class of the boondocks of southern Va, with two sisters who hated me because I was different, and a father who practically hated gays, because he never knew his own daughter was attracted to women, and had been since preschool. But I survived, all those years of disgraceful treatment, and I survived. I was a self harmer, I liked drugs and mixing them with other drugs to numb the bullshit agony I was feeling. But one day when contemplating suicide, I realized.
The world is not responsible for the way I feel. Only I am responsible for the way I feel.
It was my own fault I was so depressed and spiraling into a hole, it was MY. OWN. FAULT. Because I let the words people spoke have power over me. You are the only one responsible for the way you feel, no matter what. No excuses, no exceptions. If you’re depressed, and cutting yourself in your room at night while thinking about getting your father’s gun out of the cabinet, it’s your own fault. You can’t control how the world treats you, but you can control how it effects you and you can control how you respond to it. No one is to blame for your own misery but yourself.
Those kids weren’t murdered, they took their own lives because they couldn’t tough it out. I know that sounds absolutely terrible, but it’s true, and it’s coming from someone who’s been there. The going get’s rough, kids are ruthless and society is cold hearted and feels compassion for no one, and that’s why you can’t let what people say define who you are. They succumbed to the opinions of others because they weren’t strong enough to stand up and fight back. They killed themsevles, society didn’t take a gun, point it to their heads and pull the trigger, or tie their nooses or buy them a razor. They did it to themselves. It’s a tragedy, an absolute tragedy that this is the point we have come to, that gays are so unaccepted, teenagers take themselves out because they’re being bullied. I was bullied for over a decade, and I made it, and I’m not the strongest drill in the toolshed, either. I have empathy, but no sympathy. Take control of your own life, and stop letting other people’s opinions define who you are.
I don’t even have words to comment on this nonsense.
“If you’re depressed, and cutting yourself in your room at night while thinking about getting your father’s gun out of the cabinet, it’s your own fault.”
Really? Ugh. Shut the fuck up.
It’s the harsh truth coming from someone who’s been in the same boat as thousands of other gay teenagers, so come and make me shut the fuck up.
Besides, gay or straight, us non whites will always have it worse. You can hide the fact that you’re gay, bi or transgender. You can not hide the fact that you are black, latino, asian, or just not white in general. Shut up vincentwilde, if you disagree with us so much why do you follow us? All we have said is the truth and you’re obviously too young, too biased or simply too stupid to understand it. Sorry that you live in a cocoon and haven’t really experienced life but fell free to come and shut me or my lady up as you so bravely suggested on your post. Looking at your blog as you yourself admit it is clear to see you’re anti heterosexual which is fucking retarded and counter productive to anything getting fixed in society. You’re prideful, full of yourself and full of hate. Just because you champion gay rights DOES NOT mean you’re a good person when you hate anything which isn’t gay. You call yourself heterophobic. You proud of that you moron? You are proud that you judge millions of people because of your own prejudices or fears? That is exactly the thought pattern of a homophobe, racist or sexist human being. To a t. Learn a thing or two before you embarrass yourself any further by displaying your ignorance, stupidity, and hate. You’re an embarrassment to humankind, gay or not. Gender, sexual identity and race do not make a person bad or good, their actions do and your actions show you are shit. You are not a champion of anything. I am way older than you. I have seen more, done more, and will continue to do more for gay people than you have or will ever do. Dressing up in drag does not make you an expert in sexual identity the same way that baking a cake doesn’t make you a professional chef. All I gotta say is you’re lucky you live far away from me or you’d be picking up your teeth of the ground for talking to my woman as you did. Yeah, real tolerant YOU are. Fuckface!
(via thelittlestonedfox)
